March 26, 2011
Anonymous
My parents divorced when I was around 5 years old. At first, we talked all the time. Every weekend, we would visit her. In the past 3 or 4 years, we've sent each other emails around once a month and she rarely visits us, then we hear all this stuff like she faked a pregnancy and she was pretending to be me on facebook. My dad blocked her and my cousin because of all the drama, and then I didn't hear from her for a year and a half. Since then my dad's girlfriend, who I disliked mostly because of mom, has become my stepmother and we get along great. I've gotten less shy, more willing to speak my mind, less indecisive, and my relationship with my father has gotten a lot better also. My mom is...it's hard to explain, but she isn't all there. I've heard people say that she's been drinking a lot, to the point where they had to carry her into the shelter because she was so drunk. She's attempted suicide 3 times. Now, she wants to start seeing us again, and my little brother has started acting up again and he and my stepmother hate each other. My parents have been fighting about whether and where I should be allowed to see her. I really don't know what to do. On one hand, she's my mom and even though there's been a lot of crap in the past few years, I still love her.....but I really don't know if it's worth it.
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Give her a chance. You may be a positive influence to motivate her to get her act together. You don't say how old you are - I'm guessing you're a minor, so the decision may not be yours, but your Dad should at least take into consideration your feelings.
If you do re-establish a relationship with her, set clear boundaries and make it clear what kind of behavior you will not tolerate. Then walk that talk.
When I moved back to my hometown after the birth of my daughter, I told my hard drinking party girl of a mother that I only wanted positive people and energy around us. If she wanted to see her grandchild, she had to break up with her abusive drug addict boyfriend and knock off the binge-drinking. She did.
I now have a great relationship with her, and she only drinks socially once or twice a week. You may or may not end up with a happy ending, but it's worth a shot, right?
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